Do you really really really know what your W wants ?
Not positively. I see her chasing men with money, so maybe she wants money. Sometimes I think that she wants a fresh start with someone else who doesn't have history with her behavior; because she's been incapable of accomplishing anything that requires hard work. She hasn't taken responsibility for anything in the past for an extended period; just look where my kids are. She's contributing nothing to them maternally, materially, or any real love at this point.
Deep down, I think she's looking for someone to dote on her, day and night. I used to do that until the kids came along and she helped me spend all of my savings.
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For me it was to be number 1 in his life and sadly enough I think I was. It was just that his way of showing it and how i wanted it showed were different.
Here's where reading "The 5 Love Languages" would be helpful. My W wanted to be my priority as well. She was until we had the responsibility of the kids. My mistake was allowing the finances to get so bad that I couldn't at least date her. It became routine and she gets bored easily. She wasn't willing to do the work necessary to get out of debt. At that point I would have loved to dated her as much as possible. Too little, too late in her eyes.
