I am sorry to hear you had that experience. I guess I see things differently. If he really was a good hearted and nice man, he NEVER would have had an affair. I firmly believe that when you love deeply having an A is just not a possibility. I could never have done that to my exW....... Maybe, I am an odd bird?
I pray you find all the best.
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"