I think that is why communicating and connecting with another woman is so compelling yet also so confusing and dangerous.
If a person is divorced, then they are free to date others, but I would not want to be the woman you dated at this time-b/c it is so obvious that you are a long way from being over the toughest part in your stitch with your W. You are still having thoughts about her coming back some day. So, you know that you would rebound with another woman.....or you would risk getting an STD b/c your body is vulnerable right now. Would be better for a while longer to hang out with friends until you can get stronger. I know it sounds unfair, but do you really think you are emotionally stable for dating right now? It is your business and your life, but we don't want to see you hurt more than what you already are......and yes, you could get in deeper and more hurt. Don't want that, do ya?
Samdi
Oh yeah, you're absolutely correct. The woman I'm friends with is out of a WAS relationship for 2 years now and I've been friends with her family for several years. We connect emotionally in way that is scary for me. Probably because it is mutual. I could snuggle up to this woman and watch a movie or just talk and NEVER have sex and feel very content. So far all we have done is talk and it has been wonderful. Nuturing is the word I would use. With my ExW I've been in an emotional desert for so long I'm starting to realize how many of my needs haven't been met.
Me- 47 W- 45 Married 22 years Together 30 years No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat 2005 - 2007 W in MLT 1/08 - Crisis hits 3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA 4/08 W files for divorce 8/08 Divorce final
