Next 3 years I deny PA and . H moves in and out of house in frustration. He believs it PA . I let him come and go. For a while I did not care . even when he got a flat and it all looked serious , i felt that he still Loved me. I used that to give me the strength to keep lying etc.
2008 H had enough and exploded. I knew that I had to tell him the truth for amny reasons and one of them being a sense of this could be it. So I came clean.
2008 H moved back in and then hids dad died and then he moved out.
I have been devasted and why - because I SENSE this is it. He is not play acting anymore. He means it. He is very hurt even though I only confirmed what he already knew.
Sooo it is a sense of when the spouse really has had enough. I had not changed one little thing about myself until this point. I needed to really see and really feel the hurt and destruction and yes hate.
I dont know how you will do this if you dont feel it. I dont believe oit is something that can be play acted. Maybe it is a case of GAL and then you will GAL and she will sense it. Then like me she will have to hope and pray that there is a small window of oppotunity to get it all back.
It probably is not something you want to hear.
Things H did this year - he seemed happy to do things on his own, he bought clothes on his own ( normally he wants my opinion), he attended a family function without me. He is planning holiday without me. He took up a new hobby that mixes him with people i dont know and leads into lots of fun things.
Little things but they all add up to him GAL. I hate it
After reading this, he might be slipping into his own MLC.
