Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and advice. I am seeing a DB coach, but not Jody. I think I might switch over to her as I have heard good things about her in this forum.
I agree about the no R talks. I haven't brought up the topic of relationships in while, but maybe my actions are too pushy and I just don't realize it. The thing is, she makes suggestions to stuff such as washing her car, bringing her breakfast/lunch to her work, etc. She will even say stuff like "it would be nice if you would buy me this nice outfit, etc." Then for her birthday, she tells me that she wants me to go all out with flowers, balloons, nice restaurant, etc. And then out of the blue, she feels like she has to remind me every now and then that it is over between us.
I have been trying to not appear pushy though. I've stopped calling her and basically have her call me for now on. I also try to be the first one to end our conversation when we are talking.
I like the analogy you gave about the rocks in the river. That is so true. This is definitely going to take a long time for the bridge to come up. Thanks again for the encouragement
