It is a line from a poem, i believe Robert Frost. Yes I am into poetry, writing not reading. I have written several over the past two months. There is indication she was with OM this weekend.. Friday she indicated that she may show up at my camp over the weekend. I asked her if she wanted me to bring an extra blanket in case she was staying over and she said there is an extra, I'll be ok. I got a very nice "Hi, how are you?" when she saw me me friday at my house after work. Something very strange happened and I want to get your opinion as well as Sandi and karlah and any other women reading this:

Here goes; the woman my wife if staying with is a good friend of both of ours. I talked with her a month ago about any developments that she could clue me in on. Nothing. Friday I had to run some errands after work so I called my daughter to tell her I would be a little late. My W was there. she got to my house about 3:45. My D said she was reading her mail, skimming through the ads and small chit chat with her. She seemed to my D to be waiting for someone or something. When I came in, my D said my W got up and went into the bedroom. I went in got my overnight bag , got thehello I mentioned above and asked her about her ins money. she gave me 70. Small chit chat about nothing. In listened while she talked. I went into the living room to eat with my daughter and she told me a woman called looking for me at 5. She didn't say who it was, she told my D she would call back. I recognized the cell number as her friend she is staying with and called her figuring she had some news. I left a message for her to call my cell. My W then checked the phone for caller ID and said oh, Pam called. My D played it cool and said she didn't know. If she doesn't recognize the number she doesn't answer it. My W called her to see what was up. She talked for about 15 minutes and hung up. that's when she told me she might show up at the camp. I said good bye, maybe I'll see you there, kissed my D good bye and left. Her friend called my cell and we just started talking. She asked how I was and how I was making out. I told her I was fine, busy with projects and started running thru the list. she told me she wasn't handling her realtionship failure very good ( same as me and the W, but she is on my side of the fence). She said she'd been hopping around with guys she didn't even like. told her she was too good of a person to be like that and if she needed that kind of company she should have called me, and I laughed (I meant it as a joke). she responded by saying thats why I called, to see if you wanted to have dinner some night, just go out and do whatever. I climbed out odf the conversation and started asking her about what she has been going thru. She rebounded about dinner again and then added ," I'm not sure if the W would be too happy about me going after you. She might get really mad or she might tell me to go for it". NowI'm getting nervous. I said I didn't know what she might say or do, but thngs are fragile now and everything must be tread on lightly. She laughed and once again said well I would love to go to dinner or something with you, what do you think? I joked abotu her hopping around comment and she said that she heard I was doing really well and looked great. She said we could both use some good hopping around. I immediately changed the subject back to how I was feeling and what I do to keep focused. She said she had another call coming in she had to take, but she would call me bvack later to finish the conversation.

Now my emotions are all over the place. I do feel good about myself, i am taking my signs as they come and logging them. I know she is still with OM, but I am taking everything she wants to give me. I have been thinking in terms of high school with allof this stuff. Am I being paranoid that mayb my W was at my house, knowing this call was coming in and what the subject would be so that her friend could elicite some type of response from me? I am thinking three scenarios.

1. Her friend really does want me, but why wait a month to check on me? If she wanted to see me or at least was thinking about it, woyuldn't she have been calling me more regularly?

2, Were they looking for a positive response that yes, I want to hop in the sack with her and make plans to that end to see what my feelings were about my relationship condition and feeling for my W.

3. That They were hoping I would reject the proposal to know that I am still wanting adn hoping for my wife back and that I am not looking for anything with anyone right now.

I have spoken to this frined of mine that went thru this with her husband and she has been coaching me and helping just like this board. Same advice, same jumping on me when i get off track. She believes i was being tested. She doesn't understand why the frined who took her in, is one of her longest and best frineds, would jeopardize all of that by seeing me. I know this sounds typical high school. but ahs anyone out there done something like this or even heard of this being done? My rsponse was that I wasn't interested in that, but that i wanted to talk to her more, mostly about what she is going thru. The friend, not th eW.

Roller coaster ride for sure. I am very flattered to say the least, to not only be asked out for dinner, but that thngs being said about me are appealing to women. I haven't seen this ftriend in months. she heard I looked good, lost weight, stopped drinking, she then thru out the," mayb I should come around and boink you, and she laughed. We have always been able to joke like that as at one time she was married to my best friend. A divorce she still regrets to this day. I am also concerned about the point that this may have been some sort of test, testing the water as it were. My friend says you would have passed if it were me, but who knows. She found it really strange that a woman qwho hasn't seen me in a while, has taken my wife in, all of a sudden wants to start something up. She says if she really is interested, it tells you what your W must be saying about you. Her advice to me, keep doing what your doing and watch. that is exactly what I'm doing and what I intend on doing. Any thoughts?