FLTC, the nice thing about M failure is that there is always enough blame to go around! M's fall into patterns, yours was that W did all the day to day organizing etc and you did...whatever you did! I'm sure you did things for the family. Barb is certainly right when she says that a partner must tell the other if unhappy, not just expect the other to KNOW! We learn from our mistakes, sure you made some like all of us, but the key is what do we do with them. Do we learn from it and hone our skills for our next partner or do we beat the crap out of ourselves for our all too human behaviour. I vote the first! You're a good man and you did your best, you never did anything with the intention of causing hurt. When your W went out and found someone else that IS intentional hurt. She has to live with herself and her conscience, you don't. We can only just continue to do our best in being good people throughout these messes we find ourselves in now.
