I talked with W on the phone this morning. Lodo is correct in his analysis. She thinks that I am going to slowly forget all about my kids as I get a new family in my life. I think she is going off of what happened with OM and his kids. That scumbag and I are completely different fathers. I also detect some regret and jealousy even though I am not telling her any details of OW. She seems to be hurting badly (mentally and physically) and she admits that she was a bad wife and mother as she is now starting to see the consequences of her actions. As I told her a long time ago, she was making a sh!t sandwich that she was going to have to eat someday.
G40, her cute D4 and I had a good time traveling to visit with her brother's family yesterday. His 4 kids (D11, S8, S5 and S3) are all homeschooled and are great kids that are given responsibilites in the family. I was impressed and a little jealous of seeing such a strong and loving family. That was what I wanted with my marriage, but I had little control.
As for introducing kids to someone new - there seems to be 2 schools of thoughts. Wait until you are sure before letting them know about someone new in your life or tell the truth so as to no lose their trust. After reading the dating for dads book, I tend to believe that letting my kids know that I am dating is best. I dont feel comfortable keeping it a secret that I am having a second life when I am not with them. G40 and I have discussed this and she wants to make sure that we do it right and not hurt my kids.
The attraction between G40 and myself is huge. A funny thing we laughed at recently is that the chinese astrology even has us matched as perfect for each other. We are keeping our hands off each other for now because I am still married, but I sense that wont last long once I am legally divorced. I really like the way we are taking it very slow right now. She is a really good woman and I like her a lot. She understands that it takes work to make a good marriage and keep the love alive. She has seen it with her parents who have been married for close to 50 years and I have seen it in my own parents and brother's successful second marriages.
At least W and I are both very concerned about S8 right now. She is going to talk today with a psychologist that has her daughter in the Chinese class. I would like to try and see if we can work as parents first to try and figure out what is troubling our son. He is going through a rough patch in his life now, but I am confident that we can help him get through it and be a happy go lucky little boy.
