Hi Cinders, I haven't been posting much, but I still follow along and you continue to amaze me with your strength and kindness. You know, if your H asks you for a request out of the blue, such as the Xmas plans, don't feel the need to jump to a response for him. Take the time for yourself to figure out what you want/need. A simple " I haven't thought about it yet; I'll get back to you," is enough. I think your H tends to push you, in his "nice" way ( this kind of niceness I can live without), and you can ( and should) take care of yourself first. Just my 2 cents.
