True, H4H, but he doesn't realize that yet! But honestly, I think H is happiest not having the responsibilities of the kids, just seeing them when convenient, having a fun, single life. I think we might both be happier prob. after the D.
Still have the flu so having a quiet day. I'm tempted to work out today b/c it's become a daily thing for me and I haven't worked out since Thursday! But I think with the coughing flu thing maybe should wait a day or two. I never thought I would feel that way about exercise but it really has been a huge factor in keeping me sane (well almost sane ) this past year!
The L asked me to write out areas in which to question H in depo. I woke up at 7:30 or so this am stressed out about that. I meet with her tomorrow and still hadn't done it, but just did it. Thought I'd call my big bro up today and see if he can think of anything else (he's got a 165 IQ so helpful with this kind of thing), and he's really mad & hating H so I'm sure he'll give me a bunch of stuff to add. But basically I just had 4 areas: abuse, (his daily verbal abuse of me the past 2 years before he moved out); time: how much time he spends on job, girlfriend, friends, and exercise (at least 70 hours a week) so not much time left for kids; and I included financial: his spending major $ on hotel bills those months before he moved out. The last section I had is probably lame: he told me a few years ago his #1 priority was his job, then his workouts, then the kids, friends were #4 and I was last! Now I think the OW is probably #1 in his life, too so the kids are probably #4 in his list of priorities. But I don't think he'd be dumb enough to admit to that in depo though!!! If anyone can think of anything else (b/c let's face it some of you know my sitch better than I do b/c I think it's harder to see your own sitch) please feel free to give me any ideas you think of also!
Plan to have a quiet day, want to watch the Starter Wife show today (I think it's 2 hours). I watched it last year and now it's a weekly show I think where Debra Messing plays a divorced wife whose H was cheating. I read the woman that wrote that (it was a book) based it on her life, kind of a true story, so it's written from the viewpoint of an LBS. I love that show; hope it will be still good this year! Karen
But honestly, I think H is happiest not having the responsibilities of the kids, just seeing them when convenient, having a fun, single life. I think we might both be happier prob. after the D.