I think everything sounds VERY positive, and I give you a personal "A" for how you handled the day.
For the first time, I can see her trying. She may be trying in HER way, and not yours, and you'll have to decided which things are dealbreakers and which are just differences in style, but I do think she's making genuine efforts.
Most importantly, I can see her being respectful to you.
I often look for my wife to SAY "I'm sorry." And she has a few times in our marriage, including about her affair. But most of the time, she either won't say it at all (she's so stubborn!), or she will, but she "says" it by reaching out to me and being nice and/or respectful in other ways.
Not sure what your finances are like, but you may want to get her that Coach purse early, and not wait for Christmas. Just a thought. What are her LL(s) again? How high is "Gift Giving" on her list?
