Treese, I'm very happy to see that your daughter is doing well. Please extend my congratulations to her on making the National Honor Society. That is a major milestone and one that all of you should be proud of.
As for the anniversary card, since your h has made it known that "we aren't celebrating birthdays, vday and anniversaries", I wouldn't send him a card. He's telling you what his wishes are for now and I would abide by them. He doesn't want to associate any holiday w/reminders of the two of you. It's that relationship thing once again. Celebrate the day w/your children or friends. In his mind, the relationship is over and has been for a while. Unfortuantely, you don't cut the ties that easily and he's going to discover that if and when it happens, it's not going to be as simple as he thought.
Treese, I do hope today goes smoothly. Take plenty of pictures of your daughter on her special day.
Keep the faith and dig deeper for more patience. I know the situation is wearing thin, but you are working on his time clock these days.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
