This is from http://www.divorcerecovery.com A newsletter dealy I get every day. We wonder how long to stand or if we should stand etc. Our friends and family are attached to us in different ways and only see from the outside. BUT GOD He knows our hearts are our spouses or xspouses...
This is really good and spoke to me. I hope it helps you guys.
"What If Your Spouse Is Not Willing to Reconcile? Day 334
If your spouse does not want to reconcile with you, how long should you wait for a change of heart?
"How long to wait is one of the most difficult questions I'm asked in divorce recovery," says Laura Petherbridge. "Each person's situation is unique, and there is no formula. You must stay close to God and make sure you are not in a state of denial.
"In my own situation, I prayed that God would reveal to me whether to wait or move on. God provided a situation where I could comprehend my ex-husband's true desires in a powerful way that couldn't be denied.
"I knew God was saying, 'Laura, it's okay. He has left. He doesn't want the marriage anymore. You can move on.'"
Seek to reconcile your relationship with God first. If you surrender your life to Jesus and commit yourself to learning more about Him and living for Him, you will be able to hear what He is saying to You. Seek God first in all situations, and learn to listen. God knows what is in your former spouse's heart, and His Spirit will guide you to make the right decision about when to wait and when to move on.
"By him [Jesus,] God reconciled everything to himself. He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of his blood on the cross" (Colossians 1:20 NLT)."
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
