I know it is going to be difficult to get thru this anniversary but try and think of it as just another day. That is the only way you will get thru this and maybe do something nice with the kids or a friend.
As for sending him a card--I had always sent my h a card but not one that was all romantic, just simple.
You do what you feel is in your heart.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19