Hi Ken, I know what you mean about the frustrations - it feels like talking with someone that just doesn't use words in the way they were intended anymore (at least that's been my experience).
The finances are a big pain - I've already started to deal with that - and we're not even at the full D yet. I'm just trying to stay rational and clam and not fall for any of the traps she's trying to set up - she's becoming such a scheming person of late - I just don't trust anything she says or does anymore - and so I rely on my sense of reason to see me through - since I think she tries to use frustration to trip me up...remember, your STBX probably knows exactly what to say or do to get to you - which is why you may have to work extra hard to stay calm. If you can get a mediator instead of a lawyer - if that's at all possible for your sitch - it could help a lot. That's what I'm hoping to do.
