I am sorry to hear you are dealing with what I am dealing also. My dad has cancer and had his third surgery this last Wednesday and thanK God, he made it. He is in recovery and things dont look good but I am still hoping.
My stbxH loved my dad. He has been very polite and in good terms with both my parents all the years we've been together. My parents have been helping us alot with our kids. He has also lost him mom 4 years ago and knows how it feels to lose a parent. Ever since we found out he SAID he wanted to be there for me and came to both previous surgeries. He didnt to this last one nor helped with the kids (babysitting while I needed to be at the hospital). I got really mad and talked to him yesterday.I told him I didnt want anything else from him but to be there for his kids while I am spending time with my dad. He showed remorse and I could tell he felt bad. He even said he remembers how I supported him and his family through his mom's illness (cancer also). Bottom line, and I dont know your sitch, I am only talking from my point of view, I am alone. I cant count on him for things serious as this. I learned a lesson this week. My life, my problems. It's ok. I have no advice to offer, just wanted to let you know I am going through the same. Take care and I hope you get to spend with time your dad and tell him how much he means to you. That is what I am doing. Somehow, this makes it easier to keep moving on with my stbxH. K
