did you husbands ever stand a chance of a good marriage. Could be the cards were stacked against you from the start.
You know, I don't think that we ever did stand a chance. Maybe that is why I'm so accepting of the probable likelihood of D. With her troubled past, I think that I was doomed as a H; but have two great kids.
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I can easily forget the past and look forward. I am fantastic with that, BUT what says we have not learned the real reason, for why we did what we did, and we make the same decision again, with the same intensity that we did in the past. A sense of entitlement, a massive selfish act, a disregard for the feelings of all those others affected !
How can we be confident that should (God willing ) our M become real again that in 1 year or 2 years that we dont go and do it again.
I can tell you with absolute conviction that I would never do it again today but in reality will i feel like this in the future.
My W could have said this to me verbatim. I am real impressed that you are here posting your thoughts. I'm sure that many more of LBS H's will treasure the insight you have started posting on this board.
Help, I think you do need. I cannot even begin to understand what you must be feeling inside; I can only recognize it as I have seen this play out in my M at least 4 times. I am talking about the cycle of emotion and attachment to me by the W vs. the lack of empathy and detachment that she exhibits on a cycling basis.
