Are we piecing yet?

[kiwi000]

Update;

My father is dying. He has terminal cancer. This is a really tough time for me as a I have a very close relationship with him. WAW offered to lend an ear on the night that Dad was diagnosed (6 weeks ago now) but since then has not asked about his health once.

I did ask if she wanted to go see him, she said yes and she'd organise it. Dad has not heard from her.

WAW used to be close to my Mum and Dad. They loved her and thought she was great before we separated. They have bee one of my supporters through DBing and I think they secrettly respect me for giving it a go.

But what hope does our M have when WAW just ignores the fact that Dad is dying (he's now going into organ failure so things are happening quite quickly). No words of encouragement for me, no support (although perhaps I was not that open about how I was feeling after he was diagnosed.... I still feel very wary of being vunerable to WAW).

I feel like I am also dealing with S3 about this issue on my own. S3 loves his Grandad.

So I'm not as good as I was a few weeks.

Has anyone encountered a WAS who doesn't engage when a parent is dying? Is this a signal that in truth she really has gone and I should move on too?? If so, why go on a 'family holiday' 3 weeks ago.