my wife is getting upset as the the litigation costs are very expensive. She thought this would be simnple and easy and that I would fold. That has not happened ..as i will not sacrifice my children nor myself to her whims and illogical demands.
I cover all the household expenses and give her money every week for food and cloths for the children. she runs out of money regularly and is obviously a poor money manager. She was being pleasant to me last night for only one reason...to get more money from me or to be sympathetic to her current condition. Not happening.
She is a wise guy. i have the children on Sunday and was going to take the three of them out to breakfast with my folks--who are leaving to go to Florida in 10 days. Mt wife set up sleepovers to cause confusion in which now we couldn't go out for breakfast. after my initial annoyance, I worked it out where I will make a big breakfast for everyone including my children's friends and for even one of the moms. I am trying to handle these issues on the fly....and doing the best i can. it is soo frustrating.
On an interesting note, my wife's father has called me and most recently my mom to try to resolve the issues between us. He said it was getting expensive and we should try to work it out without the lawyers. My mom and i respectfully declined his offer as we do not want to undermine our counsel and possibly cause more harm than good. Her dad end the conversation that he was upset all of this happened, he loves me and wished it never occurred in the first place. i don't take too much stock in what he is saying, but it is unusual. (I think he realizes that his own daughter may be losing it)
i am trying to stay calm and measured during this process. My lawyer did reach out to her attorney Tuesday Am to see if we could commence discussions with the result to resolve some critical issues. as of today, to the best of my knowledge, there has been no response. we will wait until Tuesday before reaching out a second time.
my wife still planning to go to VA this week supposedly to visit her relatives. As stated previously, i think she is going to see her summer OM. i hope she finds love and decides to never come back) Even though that is a=n extremely remote possibility, I think its a poor parenting decision especially during this critical juncture for the children (She wanted to get out of town while my family was in for a Bar mitzvah) I am sure the the Law guardian will find it interesting.
Finishing up work in office and heading out to visit my sister. Still working on GAL, doing fine. i am trying to be respectful to wife, but she is too angry and frustrated. The more i am nice, the more upset she gets...kinda cool. finished stage 1, on to 2.... but wife not even interested in establishing a cordial relationship while litigation continues. I must be strong and keep up the fight.
