Hi S, I posted on your other thread, didn't realize you had two going. Hope you are feeling a bit better. When I first came to these forums I was told that men who leave a long term rel. have actually left it long before they physically move out and that is why they appear to cope with the demise of the marriage and subsequent D so much easier than the other spouse who believed they had a good m and were happy up until the "bomb". You have been so accommodating to your husband for over 3 years now. Did you ever do a 180 and show your hurt, pain anger or tell him what you thought about his behaviour and his OW. I can't believe you have slept with him the whole time. I know it helps to keep the connection in some cases but after all this time and nothing changed didn't you ever feel slightly used or want to tell him NO, not until he behaved like your husband and stopped contact with OW. Too late for that now I guess, but I would certainly make sure it stops right now and keep it all purely business. You may be standing but that doesn't mean you lay down and accept all his throws your way. Take care.
