One thing from his behavior, is you know that all the anger he has had lately, is not for you at all it is work related. He just seems to really needs to belittle you to feel better. I am glad that there is something you can take to help keep the cancer away.
I am glad that you had a nice evening, before the alien came back.
My evening was very nice, and my friends gave me a great pep talk that we can all use at times like this. I know that you and I are both great people and just at the moment happen to be married to a person that we don't know anymore. But we can't let this person ruin our outlooks! I am trying!
How was your night? How are things going for you? Enjoy your nice weather. I am afraid they are going to start coming to and end! I love summer, like fall and hate winter. If I could I would find somewhere it was 70-90 all the time except on Christmas Day, then it can snow, but only on Christmas! LOL! I know I am asking a lot.
Had a busy day yesterday, one full of DB opportunity. H came home from work at noon and was in a down and depressed mood. Job issues and unfair treatment by the boss had him feeling bad. So I listened and validated as he talked and we had lunch together. Afterwards we went outside and did some yard work, mowing etc.
Later I maked some cookies and he decided to practice with his bow. That was fun. He is a great shot and I was able to compliment on several things that made him feel good. He decided to hunt the back of our field for a bit, so he left when it began to edge towards evening. I made dinner and watched the news.
Friends were having a bonfire, so I fixed a little cooler to take and we went and enjoyed a beautiful evening under the stars. Several families with kids were there. The guys played horseshoes, we had cold adult beverages, a sky full of stars and a lovely fire. Didn't come home till 2am.
H is off to a snowmobile show today. I am enjoying the thought of some quiet time in the house. He asked me to record our College football game so we can watch it this evening and I will try to think of a good fall dinner to have waiting.
For the moment, life is pretty peaceful.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
Glad you are in a peaceful moment and can relax in the house alone today! My SD went to her mom's this weekend, which even though I like her here now, it is nice to be able to scream or yell or cry if you want when no one is here! LOL.
Sounds like the bonfire was the perfect release! Watched a bit of the Texas Oklahoma game, before the reception. Lots of offense! It was a wild one!
As for the phone number I am guessing it is a cell so you can't google it? I hate cell phones for that. I would have to say try and put it out of your mind, but I know that is easier said than done.
Enjoy the rest of your day, going out to do my Chiefs scarecrow!
Wouldn't it be great to have a string of nice times together? Hopefully it lasted the rest of the weekend and you could have a low key stress free game watching good time!
I built a campfire the other nights, made burgers one night and hot dogs another night and it just felt so good to sit around and soak up the heat while watching the clear sky and the full moon. I wonder if H sees or smells the dwindling fire when he gets home and ever misses the life he had.
Is it already bow season in your state? will your H hunt much?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
I have a new one for you. H came home from the snowmobile show and we talked for quite a while. He had a good time and shared it all with me in detail. He even planned that we would go together next year.
Then somehow, as he was sitting in the living room and right before my eyes,the Alien came and replaced my H! I knew that he was tired, as was I, so I asked if he wanted to go up and watch the rest of the football game in bed. He flipped out! I totally was taken by surprise. He ranted and raved about how I was controling him and "this was his life", in bed on a Saturday night by 8:30 blah, blah, blah. I was dumbfounded. I said, but H, you were watching tv, I just asked if you wanted to watch in bed...he snarled, well what do you want to do? Go to a disco? WTF? Then he screamed "Stop looking at me, get the F away from me!" I went downstairs and slept in the den. I could hear him crying upstairs! What the heck happened?
Sunday he got up and did not speak a word to me until almost 1:00, and then it was to tell me that I was making too much noise and to get out of the house and leave him alone. He told me to go visit my boys.
So, I got cleaned up and quietly left the house. I drove around for a while, and ended up visiting with my oldest son. When I came home a few hours later all he could say was "where were you, where did you go?" I didn't answer, just made a plate of cheese and crackers and went upstairs and watched tv. He never came up to the bedroom and must have slept on the couch.
He got up this morning, got ready and left for work without a word to me. I was so bewildered by his behavior that all I could be was detached. It was so evident that it was something that he was feeling bad about and he was taking it out on me. This time I didn't feel even sad. He was acting crazy.
MT, about the phone number, I did try to search it, it says that it is a land line, but from the number I can tell it is a cell. So it is probably one of those prepaid ones. So, I will follow your advice and try to put it out of my mind. Nothing I can do about it. He will do what he wants. The calls were not very long, nothing like when he and EA were talking. Oh well.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
H just called my office. I debated answering, but I eventually did. It was happy H, returned from the spaceship! He wanted to tell me that he had just received a call from friends about a dinner we had been invited to attend. We were having a conflict because it was scheduled for a day that we were to attend another function and we were having a hard time thinking we could make both. Well, the dinner was postponed a week, so he called to have me write down the details. Now we can attend both parties.
Not quite sure what happened here, but I guess I have learned just to take the good when it comes, and not ask any questions.
WCW, I will rejoice when I can string together some happy times. We seemed to be working towards that before his birthday, but then things seemed to head back to the tunnel. I know, patience. It's funny that the strance phone calls seem to coordinate with the time the Alien returned. Maybe I am imagining things, don't know.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
WOW! 1hope, that is a huge turnabout. You could probably actually see the alien transformation take place. I just cannot imagine, well I can sorta! I haven't gotten to actually witness my H's abductions, because they don't seem to happen when I am around, but to be sitting across the room!
I don't get the whole thing of one minute they are doing things like speaking of the future together and then they switch and are wanting to be out.
I would definatly say something was weighing on him that had nothing to do with you.
Oh yes the phone, this morning after H was home all last night I wanted to look and see if he had called OW yesterday since he said he was F'ed in the head all day, but I made my self not look! Wondered if something happened with OW that made him start his thinking process or just his normal-unnormal behavior now!
I would have to wonder now by the time you get home tonight will the "Good" H be there or will Your Alien H return. For your sake I hope Good H will be there and give you a nice peaceful evening.
Oh your poor Lions, they got rooked yesterday on that pass interference call.
Yes they did, but I don't think we really believed they would win. I don't know what it's going to take.
I would love to have the happy H home this evening, but I know that I'll survive if he isn't. I expect that he will probably go to the bar. It's been a few days since he's been there.
So here's the thing. I worked my way through the pain and surprise of the discover of his EA. I know that has stopped and I could understand why it happened and I began the DB'ing in ernest. I thought that things were getting better, and now I discover that he has been making calls to some other W. My heart is breaking all over again.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
