"I've been married for 14 years and endured a lot of being ignored, criticized, and devalued over that entire period"
Breakaway, as a lbs who has heard very similar frustrations expressed by my WAS, I would love some specific elaborations on these three things you mention.
I seems that when ever I tried to get specific examples from W, she would resist.
It is really hard to change behaviour when you aren't certain what behavior is annoying your spouse.
