Thank you Glam! My M did work & we were so happy the night of our wedding. When we ML we both cried b/c we were so happy & knew we were meant to be together!
I did pretty good today, down. Tonight has been hard!!! My parents & I started watching Deal or No Deal, who was on their but a bride! I went outside with my dogs for a little while. Now, I'm crying, I just miss him. But I still don't feel like it is over.
Thank you Addie!!! It has been a hard day. I hope my ex was thinking about it I really don't know. I keep checking emails & my answering machine at home but nothing. I really didn't expect to but I guess I had hoped.
don't expect your h to call you on a day such as today because he does feel the pain and guilt of it all.
take care of you now and do something special for yourself.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
NLT glad that you are not alone. Don't expect your h to call or acknowledge the day. He is off in la la land. I am sure he does feel the pain and guilt deep down inside but that won't come out now.
Take Care of yourself!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Thank you, no H didn't contact me, but I didn't really expect it. Just hopeful thinking.
I actually had a wonderful time at my high school reunion!! It was great seeing all the friends, lots I didn't know. All the snooty people have become really friendly now. Amazing how 30 years can change someone. But I had fun & I'm glad I went. We have lost 6 since we graduated, I'm really shocked by a couple of them. One of the guys in my class is pitiful! He has a cane & looks & walks like a really old man. He has a rare disease where his brain in shrinking. I felt really sorry for him, he didn't go to the reunion b/c he didn't want people to see him like that but a lot of us went over to a friends house & he was there. So, I would appreciate prayer for him!
Not too many asked about my H, a few did but I was glad they didn't ask.
You know, for several weeks now when I picture my H's face, I picture it far away but today for some reason while I was a church, having lunch I pictured him being close. I really don't know what that is all about but I was just talking with a friend & all of a sudden his face popped into my head & it was close to me. Weird, huh??
Thank you all for letting me talk & for you all being here for me!!
Were you able to catch up with old friends that maybe you can meet up with sometime soon?
I think you needed this break from all you have been thru.
I kind of wish I went to my reunion a few weeks ago.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well, there are a couple of girlfriends that want to come & spend the weekend with me, so maybe they will do that. They know my sitch & they mentioned it last night that they could take a weekend away from their H's & come visit me. So, I hope they will do that sometime.
One guy said he was in my town a lot & said he would call & we could go to lunch sometime. He is married & has been for several years so it's only a friendship. I don't know if he ever will, which is fine.
You should have gone to your reunion, it would have been a nice break for you. My parents are so happy I went, I really had a good time!!
n, I'm so glad you went to your class reunion! They are a lot of fun and yes, people do change over the years. I'm very sorry to hear about the one classmate and will keep him in my prayers. It will be nice if some of them do come to visit and lunch would be fun too. It gives you something to think about in the days to come.
As for your anniversary, I'm sorry he didn't acknowledge it. Many of them don't because it's a reminder of what they've left behind and yes, they know the pain you are experiencing by their silence. Just a little tidbit....it took my xh exactly 9 years to finally wish me a happy birthday this year. They do not forget you or what their lives were like when they were w/you. For example, three years ago, I met the xh for a late lunch...he remembered that I always went Christmas shopping on Black Friday and didn't want to interfere w/my plans. Little did he know that I don't shop on Black Friday now. Little things that we think they forget.....they don't. I hope my sharing of these tidbits will help ease a little bit of your pain.
n, make some plans for the holidays, starting w/Halloween and go from there. Leave the door ajar and do for you at this time. Make plans w/your family and friends so that you don't feel so alone on those special days and I promise you, you will get through them and you will be okay.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi nlt, I am happy for you that you had a good time with your parents and at your school reunion. It must have been nice to see old friends. I am so sorry for the guy who is ill.
