I am so sorry SPM. You have definitely been dealt a mean hand. I am sorry your W cannot see what she is losing. I have to believe that she will. Sometimes good guys do come last sadly.

I am having a ' what am I doing day today ' I have been Dbing and I just seem to be hanging. No movement forward and no movement back (thats probably good ). There was no follow up on the sexy flirty dressing and behaviour. All came to nothing.

I do get frustrated and impatient and for past couple of days I have felt - what am I fighting for. Friday night last night and not a word from H. He was probably out and for the firt time in a long time I did not care at all. That worries me a little - Am I giving up the fight .

Here is me advising you about keeping your sights focused and today I feel a bit like you do We have summer coming around again and do i want another lonely one ?

Next week all our friends are having a BBQ and H has indicated that he feels a little uncomfortable with me. I took this to mean he did not want me to go so i said "Hey no worries I wont go unless asked " H said " Thanks for that "

Well at girls poker night the subject came up and I said that I would not be going if I was not asked. They were shocked and angry. They think he is trying to freeze me out. All our friends are my friends but he now has a great relationship with there husbands - fishing . golf poker etc

I dont think i should go unless asked. Otherwise he will ignore me and everyone will notice?

Thoughts ........

Thanks for the A and sex talk , it makes a lot of sense. I know that although I went along with the sex it was not what i got out of A or needed from A. But I also choose to go ahead and get into bed.

Interesting bout your kids and wife because I was the same. But I still believe it was mixed with me being on a high and happy. Perhaps not. H said I was horrible. We came to America for a holidy during this time and I know i ignored him and wished it was someone else with me.



Quote:
But an affair also damages the participants, more than they realize.


Hmmmmm not sure hurt but certainly heightened and blew out of proportion any problems in my M. Ths created and still leaves me today with a feeling of where would I be today if it had not of happened? In a really ugly marriage.