You can improve your score, by getting a grip on your emotions, keeping your head down focusing on your goals, keep your eye on the future (Classes) and make a slow and determined swing. This will go along way to helping you to stay out of the bunkers. Bunker will always out there, but you can stay out of them. Focus on the green and not the bunkers. Keep swinging away.
School is important to you and your goals. You will do well. I wish I could advise you on what H wants, but I can't.
I asked if he was bringing papers, he said no. Just thought we should talk. I said I would listen, but am in opposition to the D. We are meeting for breakfast, and a place about 1/4 mile from my house...worse of the worst...i get up and leave.
thanks for checking on me
hugs christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
I think he was poking to see how you would react.. I think he expected you to get a bit angry.
If you remember every time you texted him.. he would maybe respond with something "angry" and then clam up. Again testing the waters. Provoke you into responding so that he could say.. see.. nothing has changed. From what I know that is kinda been the way you two have acted together.. well most people have acted like this.
I am still a little confused with the whole filing thing.. it just seemed so out of the blue. I am of the mindset that things just don't happen out of the blue. Usually there is a reason or a cause. The more I hear about it this situation.. the more I am starting to think that maybe it was a response to the texting.. even though that seems like a stretch. I mean I can make a case for he was getting some random texts and decided I will just file on her.. that will get her to stop. Something got him motivated.. not 100% sure what.. but something did. The interesting part comes where.. now all of a sudden he is looking to connect.. or talk. I also find it a bit curious that he initiated the chat via a text message to Christa. This is something I was somewhat expecting.. maybe not exactly this way or right now.. but I hoped that by keeping things light in the texting.. he would use that as a tool to "open the door".. he did.
So we went from angry response to txting to filing to "I wanna meet".
So now we need to get thru the meeting and see if we can learn anything.
I am much more comfortable with Christa's attitude now.. so Kudo's to you Christa.
So for your meeting dress nicely.. don't over do it. Look comfortable. That will be the stage setter. See if he engages in some small talk. If he goes straight to the R talk.. try and slow it down some. When we first started the texting the goal was to at some point bring about a face to face. So here you go.. not exactly how we planned.. but the outcome is the same. Be honest with yourself here.. don't go to breakfast expecting to change anything.. go and try and "hear" as much as you can.. be smart.. and use your head.. this is one of those times where I think it becomes really important to shine. Show him you are serious about wanting things to change.. don't let the old Christa show up at Breakfast.. you can do this for a short time.. If things get out of hand or you feel yourself getting "crazy" take a break. Go to the bathroom.. get up and leave.. ask for the check... whatever.. do something to break the cycle.
I still would not be surprised if the OW factors in some.. so be prepared for that. Maybe not pushing for D.. but he is feeling some interest in her. The whole we need to end things then start with a clean slate reeks of letting you down easy. Again I don't really understand that.. cause as angry as he is/was he should feel no remorse on just letting go. If he is trying to let you down easy.. it still shows he cares for you.. which I think he still does.. how much is hard to gauge. The other issue that may come up is the "money" issue.. maybe he needs some and his L has said he could get some from you.. that is a possibility. As far as the C.. talk about it.. but don't harp on it. Rule of 3 would apply here.. if you get 3 "no's" during the conversation.. you would be best served to stop talking about it.
Best thing I can tell you is go and try to keep it as light as possible.. use the things you have learned and focus on what is important. Use this as a chance to learn as much as you can about where he is and what he is thinking.. use questions to your advantage. I think you owe it to yourself to go and at least give it a shot.. you never know what might happen.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
I still would not be surprised if the OW factors in some
Ya think??
Well, sweetie, I'm glad it is a new, good, improved Christa that will be showing up to shine......instead of this mean old hateful Sandi....lol. Good thing it is you that loves him....huh? Seriously, hope for the best.....plan for the worse. Have a "way out" strat. As I said before, I am not good at poking.....except the wrong way. If he plays poker.....hope you have a trump card. (I don't even know what I'm talking about..... ) I suppose I need to leave this to FG.
FG amazes me at some of the deep things he seems to think out. What scares the heck out of me is that I'm beginning to understand him!! Whereas, I use to not know what in the dickens he was talking about. So, with that, I'll go and wish you all the luck in the world. Be a confident woman and don't let him make you cry. Okay.....okay.....I'm going.
Sandi loves ya.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
) I suppose I need to leave this to FG. 
Whereas, I use to not know what in the dickens he was talking about. So, with that, I'll go and wish you all the luck in the world. Be a confident woman and don't let him make you cry. Okay.....okay.....I'm going.