Lifeline--I concur with DQ and would add be sure if you are considering honoring your H's requests, is it going to compromise your self respect?
This was a big deal for W and me and we are almost D'd now. I wouldn't want you to make the same mistake my W did. She did something out of love for me and then lost her self-respect. Once you cross that boundary, you cannot go back. Be careful. Honest communication with H is the key and setting good boundaries. Once you let him tear down a wall, will H push to tear down another, then another? Pretty soon, there could be nothing left. Where is that going to leave you and your M?
I had written a huge post addressing this but held off for fear you would think I was hijacking. I saved it, if you want I can post it tomorrow. I have insight from personal experience, some of the things on your H's list. I can give you the LBS perspective.
I commend you on the compelling thread! That you have come here looking for advice, shows how much you love your H and are wanting your marriage. You should feel really good about yourself!
Last edited by Little Engine; 10/10/0810:29 PM.
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A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
