There are a bunch of people here who can help you out and support you.
First thing from WMD... 'don't listen to anything your spouse says and only 50% of what she does'. There are hundreds of people on this board that have gotten the ILYBINILWY (I love you, but I'm not in love with you) talk. It is to be expected. She won't think she can love you until she does. And that will be awhile. Until then, she will continue to say it.
The first step is to become her friend and it sounds like you are making progress on that one. You must be 'friends' before things can have any chance to progress to love down the road.
I have lost 45 pounds since Aug 1, so I understand the weight loss aspect. But know that is a positive to your situation... you need to make yourself attractive to your spouse. (Assuming you don't lose too much weight and head into Anerexic land).
The support topic is tricky. It's great to show caring and support for your wife. But you need to do it in a way that portrays you as a strong, independent person who has a life of their own as well. You do not want to look like you are so desperate to be around her that you are willing to spend your days cleaning her toilets like a maid.
How have you been doing at GAL (Get a life)? You really need to find a way to make yourself 'whole' as an individual. Get out... do things on your own. Only then can you provide (some) support to your wife in a way that doesn't make you look desperate.
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
