Some straight from the hip advice: don't do the lap dance thing unless it will TRULY turn you on, ok? A man may want you to do something and indulge his fantasy about it...but then if you are *only* indulging the fantasy but not actually getting off on it, then he feels like he made you do something you didn't want to do and it turns him off. He wants you to be into it, that is the key....
So would a lap dance truly turn you on and make you hot? If not, scratch that one off the list. And you shouldn't have to think about it either, the answer should be an easy yes or no.
If you have to think about it, then the answer is no.
Keep this in mind for everything you do and try out with him...it has to truly be getting you off or he will just assume you are faking it.
So how about a list of things that turn you on?
If this is hard to come up with, then list for me some sexy scenes from movies that have turned you on in the past...
For instance, one of my fave sexy movie scenes is from the movie Body Heat with Kathleen Turner...where Nick Nolte breaks a window and then busts in the door just to ravage her. So by knowing a scene you like, then we can get an idea of the "temperature" of your tastes.
Also tell me what specifically do you feel about your husband's body? This is an important issue.
