Thanks for this :). I actually typed the date wrong. I'll be back on the 16th, a Thursday. So he usually goes out drinking after his tests, and he has one on Thursday. I am actually hoping for this for 2 reasons. First, it's a 180 for me to be cool with him being out til all hours. 2nd, he may actually open up in a good way if he's been drinking, i.e. could be less guarded.
Actually H's involvement with self-help books is wearing a bit thin unless he reads the relationship chapter of the MLC book :). He has started using really annoying quotes like how I may need to find a new path for happiness or "relax everything works out for the best." He is very single-minded and right now he cares only about his fantastic new self...
In terms of the IMs and being distant, this is something I try on weekends or off business hour times, and it usually works reasonably well. Last night was different too because I was in our house and every question was as if I were living there, things about the pets or what I was cooking. I was aloof because I was frustrated with the sitch so maybe detached more. I was actually actively avoiding talking to him for the first time I can remember.I'm good about not initiating contact these days, sometimes I do send emails on days he doesn't reach out, but only business or holiday-related.
Anyway I am fairly certain I'll get some big contact from him this weekend or before Thursday in any case. After all I have sent several emails that had some emotional elements...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
