For the Guy with Kids and a WW Diez y Seis

[hopeful4her]

I'm surprised you didn't lose this long post like you usually do, dub I bet you would have been pissed.

I try so hard to not let the kids see us start to go at it. She would start getting into it. I don't want the kids to be witness to venom. I talk to D11 quite a bit. I am very honest with her. She KNOWs that I was and still am against what her mom has done. She knows that I am not ok with it. She has been extraordinarily strong about this. With out me asking her, she has been the one to tell me that I need to stop worrying about the wife.

Remember, she told me this when I was going to buy the wife a coffee maker? I needed to let the wife worry about getting her own stuff.

D11 even tells me that she thinks her mom is crazy and she can't believe what she says.

The wife has taken the blame for us on several occasions. The kids know it. I wasn't trying to take some of the blame, but I do want her to stop saying it. I don't want her to keep killing the relationship of her children. The kids know my position. They know that I hold on to her.

I wasn't asking for her advice at the house. I asked for what she thought. Her opinion. She gave it pretty quickly. First time that I have asked her that serious of a question. I asked it in a very light way, but your right. I shouldn't be asking her things like that, but our relationship has grown so much. I told her that everything that I do has a purpose when it comes to my dealing with her mother. I do everything with the family in mind. I told her that I wish her mother did the same, but we can't control that. At the same time, I don't want to play the victim. My asking her opinion was geared more to bring us closer.

I will start to look in to counseling for us with out the wife. All of us if possible. Family counseling.

Dub, I loved the woman that she was. The person she is now, I don't want her anymore. I really don't see me puting anymore effort into it anymore.

We do not have a marriage. I have taken down her pictures and the contract. I think I've reached my limit. It is the best thing for me and my children.

Not being the type to never say never, I'm gonna leave the light on.

Still.

Little sad, but still feel good, you know?