She ignored my bday, vday, anniv this year. Left all pictures, china, crystal at house when she left. I have been totally vaporized. Sort of like star trek.
Just had a long conversation on the phone with W. She wasn't too forthcoming with info. Never asked anything personal about myself.
She's going out of town this weekend. She's staying at a fancy hotel the two of us stayed in together once. I brought it up that she never wanted to go to that city with me. Said I never invited her. She couldn't remember going there with me, nor that I had recommended we go there several times. I said she had a selective memory of us. Then she said something weird. " I only remember the good times". I just replied " that's a good idea, we wouldn't be doing this if you only remembered the good times". What is she saying? She is off the wall.
Anyway, I tried to be nice on the call. She's in such selfish mode its unbelievable. My son has a big sports meeting thu night, on her night with the kids. She said she already had plans, sitter, the whole ball of wax. Then, to not ask me anything personally, think about only her plans, and dish off the kids some more is amazing to me.
Until that selfish part wears off, tostada has no chance.
I thought the WAW's were supposed to only remember the bad times. She is in denial big time.
Can you go instead to the big sports meeting for your son or is she so selfish that she would rather get a sitter than let you take care of them when it is her time?
Until that selfish part wears off, tostada should not want a chance.
I woke up at 5am this morning. Txt W and wished her a happy bday. Wanted to beat everyone to the punch. She replied that she very much appreciated it. She will get that boring card in the mail today.
Then, a bit later, she sent me a nice picture of our daughter all dressed up. This was strange. I just replied that she is as beautiful as her mother. She did not respond to this.
I did set her up for some dbing today. She came by my house to pick up our dog. I left the back door open for her. Knowing she would come in the back door, I put some newly framed pictures of me and my kids in range for her to see. They are great pictures. I'm sure she will notice. Not sure of the effect or how she will respond.
I'm still fired up that she did not ask me one question about myself or my life last night. Man, she is really in her own bubble.
I wanted to post this really quickly before I went to work because Im pretty fired up about it.
Last night was a mandatory meeting for parents for my sons basketball team. W couldnt make it because she had plans for her birthday, which was Wed....this led to her having a sitter last night.
She was telling her friends in the neighborhood that she didnt know it was mandatory and so she arranged for our Son to get a ride there and back. She called me in the afternoon to ask me about this meeting. I was going to go the entire time. However, what she was asking me, she and I had already talked about two nights earlier. She couldnt remember. I was ticked about it, so I never returned her call.
Then...this morning...She is going out of town with the neighbor snake to SF for the weekend. She is staying at a nice hotel that the two of us previously stayed in. She doesnt remember being there with me. Anyway, this whole trip irritates me too. She'd never go with me..but has to run off with this snake and go tear up SF.
This morning, I was up getting ready for work. I hear my garage door go up. Back door opens, and in rushes my labrador. She didnt ring the doorbell, call before she came, stop to say hi, nothing. It couldnt have been less friendly. She's taking her other dog to a kennel. She acquired this dog after she left. So...wondering how to respond to her about this. It's got me pretty cranked up how unfriendly and rude this was.
Also...never got a reply about the card or telling her my daughter looked as beautiful as her mom.
She's so brainwashed by this snake of a woman I cannot believe it. Has her so cocooned in selfish world its unbelievable.
IMO that really depends how much you need to have a conclusion to this - if you can live your life happy but with the door open a teeny crack then I would say no cos the goodbye letter might seal it for your W, although I understand you must feel that it is already sealed from her pov. If on the other hand, you need to bring things to a conclusion I think a letter would likely achieve that - but there may be no going back from that position.
Perhaps you are thinking it could have a positive effect - of getting her to take a look at the reality of the situation? I'm not sure it would do that.
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
