I think LRT can be broken if something big comes up. Surgery is big, and she reached out to you for support. Support her without smothering. Ball in her court now? Yes, but don't let it go if you don't hear from her in a day or two. Call, and make sure she's OK.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
