I truly miss love

[missmyfriend]

Cinders, have you heard that it is darkest before the dawn? No one knows, not anyone, save God, what is really happening with your husband.

A drowning person will fight against his "savior", pushing away what the drowning person needs, until the drowning person gives up. Let's ignore the possibilities of the person drowning or taking the "savior" with him. The latter won't happen, while the former is the foolishness of some.

My point is that your husband may appear to be happy in his situation but may just be trying to display happiness for the appearance to others. If he is happy, he is a fool, and his happiness will not last.

I was listening to a radio broadcast by Dawson McAllister today and he was talking about the difference between infatuation and love. He made many good points. He talked about infatuation as part of chemistry, i.e. the potential for a good match; while love requires time to become realized.

Further, McAllister said that infatuation is in a hurry and wants to change the character of a person saying, "I really love him/her, this person is so pretty/handsome/smart/funny/sexy but there are a few things that bother me which can be changed later.

Love is patient and accepting. They acknowledge the imperfections but say "it may bother me somewhat but this is part of the person I love so it is not something that changes the feeling I have toward that person".

Basically, he is saying, people who are infatuated with someone, quickly tire of the other person when they are together day after day, while people who love each other, truly love each other are patient.

This isn't to say that your husband doesn't love you but that he may confuse infatuation with love. He wants the heady feeling infatuation provides. But it never lasts. Can it develop into love. Yes, if he is mature enough.

The biggest challenge in your relationship isn't whether your husband will wake up some day and realize you are the best for him but that if you don't tire of waiting and he doesn't have a marriage to come back to.

Love you, little sis. Whatever you do, don't let your Hs appearances affect you.