I am sure my last thread will lock by tomorrow morning so I have started a new one in the event I am away............
H texted me today and said he was alright. He is planning on coming over this weekend as usual.
He just does not have it in him to look for a job and is quite down in the dumps.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
It is so crowded and the business they do is unbelievable.
Still praying I have the weekend off. Ideally, working three days a week would be sufficient for me.
I am so sore and tired that when I get home, I do not want to do much of anything.
Of course the girls get upset with me. I think Mr. Mom is needed on a more regular basis.
I haven't even cleaned my house!!
Son's friend is to have his things out by late this afternoon. The friend spent the night at his girlfriend's parents house lastnight and believe me when I say that when he is not here (which has been a few times this week), my house is so much quieter.
My son is very quiet, not a lot of comings and goings late at night either and really there has been none of that.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Glad you started at the job, it will be hard going for awhile until your body gets used to the physical side of the work. I am afraid you will have to explain to your kids that if you have to work then they have to help out (or more than they do) After all they are all old enough to realise you have to work otherwise they will have no extras at all. Dad has no job and apparently no incentive to look for one(I guess a roof over his families heads and food on the table isn't enough reason) and you cannot live off credits cards for ever. I don't know but I am guessing benefits don't cover all your bills so I am sure kids will be able to take over some of your chores,especially when they see how tired you get. Like you have been saying all this time how hard jobs are to come by and I am sure they will realise you were lucky to get this one right now when you really need it. Isn't one of your girls at home all day(home schooled) maybe she could help prepare evening meal or something. They sound like good girls so maybe don't try to do it all yourself and don't be too proud to insist on help. I know we mums feel we should be keeping house and doing everything ourselves at times, but needs must at times. Hope the shoes help. Makes me miserable if my feet hurt. Nice to be busy tho as I guess the days go quickly and nice to meet lots of people.
Even with me working, it really is not much more than what I was making with unemployment. Maybe just a few dollars more now with me working.
So they will continue to not have the luxury of going out like they once did but they will have food on the table.
H is very upset about his own doings and when someone is depressed, it is so hard to get up off the floor. He is very worried about the financial state of affairs.
I have heard from other people whose spouse was like this, it took them a long time to finally get a job and get back on their feet.
Under "normal" circumstances, it is easier to get up and do your best to get a job. But with someone who has been in MLC or even just plain old depression, it is much harder.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Even with me working, it really is not much more than what I was making with unemployment. Maybe just a few dollars more now with me working.
If thats the case in the US I guess it doesn't give anyone much incentive to work apart from self esteem.
I know your H knows everything about AD's BUT if he is depressed and had MLC maybe his judgement is a little off, such a great pity he can't be persuaded to see a Dr.I am sure you would see a difference in him after some treatment, but then we can't make others do things even if we think it would help them, so looks like you going to need more of that patience,good job you have it in truck loads. I hope you get some enjoyment from your job even if its not financially rewarding,maybe you could stil be looking for something with better pay whilst you are there. Put your feet up at the week end.
You know this is true. Not to mention, people cannot afford health insurance.
I am trying to work hours that fit best for me and whatever is going on around here.
It is great that this job is two miles away but let me tell you, 4 hours per day is about all I can handle with being on my feet and constantly bending over, etc. It really is hard work and very fast paced. It is nice to be able to be around people vs. sitting at a desk all day.
I have discussed with H about meds but he refuses. His mom has spent a good deal of her life on so many that she has to take for different things.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Maybe he'll come around still MWG. H NEVER thought he'd see a C (since both his parents are Shrinks), but now look at him. He even admitted the other night that he should've started IC a long time ago.
I know!!! Hopefully he will get to that point. As it stands now, he has absolutely nobody to talk to. The only person outside of our immediate family is who he lives with and who knows how much he really tells or talks to her.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I do not have to work this weekend and the kid moved out!!!!!
AND my son took me out to dinner with his own money!!!!!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
