You know what, I'm not even going through the whole song-and-dance yet. Lemme just ask you this, Tex.
Why would you allow your wife to dictate where you sleep? I don't mean about the snoring, but *punitively*?
I guess it all depends on how you look at it - I could go with the earlier post and look at it from a positive side. Ultimately, my wife wants my ability to initiate to increase, she wants me to initiate in a more confident manner and ultimately for us to have more sex. Which is what I want too. Now, if there were no consequences... how would it work? She has told me before that I should feel free and confident to initiate sex anytime I want - do I? no... I always come up with 20 reasons why I will fail and then do nothing... then, after 2-3 weeks when I'm about to explode... I come up to her and say..."so, how would you like to retreat to the bedroom for some fun..." - yep, that's about all she gets...
Of course, I have also thought of putting a twist on her little game... I can think of a lot of things that would make it just as challenging for HER.
1. She should only be able to turn down a certain number of "good initiations..." let's say 5... when she gets to number 6 she has to put up or shut up.
2. Each time we have sex she needs to try something new. We have been doing the same thing for 20 years. What would happen if SHE had to go outside her comfort zone just like I'm having to?
3. If I have to "practice initiating" then she needs to "practice discussing sex openly"
So, tonight I'm going to go positive. I am going to attack her with the most confident manly method I can and see if she backs down on her "couch" threat. If she does not - I'll probably be so pissed I won't want to be in the same room with her anyway.
