(((T))) I am loving the book. I cant wait to finish it share it with you. BUT I am finding it really challenging too. Lots of the ideas are very similar to other ideas here (like detaching vs. differentiating, and GAL vs. self validating etc) but in a more challenging way. I just wish I could get to the end and have absorbed it all, but I'm finding the process of reading it quite painful - I guess because I become more and more aware that I was looking for H to validate me. And the more I read, the more upset I feel, the more I look for someone else to validate. Its like I'm aware of it happening as I'm reading it! So I know its true and good for me and very timely. My brain can only handle a couple of pages too, before I need to digest it. But its like I want to speed up so I can get to the point where I really am differentiated.
I agree that bit about how we think the R breaks down becasue of communication failure is so interesting. Of course everyone knows what the other person is saying but no-one wants to hear it so we keep saying it over and over, and then blame bad communication! So true and funny!
