Patrick - I think kids of divorce WILL do well, if the adults keep the conflict to a minimum.
As they become adults, they will have time to consider what kind of life they want to lead, how they think about a spouse or life partner, what it takes to have a lasting relationship. And this is when you can be available to them to talk about what happened between you and their mom. They cannot conceive of "lasting relationship" now.
My wife grew up as a child of divorce. She never spoke to her parents about what caused it though. And (my lightweight armchair analysis) she never really deeply understood what it takes to be truly committed as a lifelong married person. It was fine when things were easy, but when things got hard (or boring) she just checked out.
I grew up in a family where there was trouble, I guess like most families. But my parents worked through it. And as a result that is what I knew, what I saw, what I thought married life should be like. I also spoke to my parents about it, later. My dad said "it is really hard, harder than you can imagine, but worth it."
