Yesterday was out of frustration. I gave it more thought this morning. Decided on a new route. Detached but a little friendlier then completely shutting her out.
When I went over today to work my W was mad. I did not take D11 last night, which in retrospect I should have. She did start to calm down and was going to court with my SIL. I said we needed to talk when she got back.
When she got back I told her I agreed she needed her space to work on her own issues. That I was proud that she was going to get the help she needed. She was very polite and said she did need the space and she had a lot of issues in herself she needed to work out. She said that she did not want anyone in her life right now and needed to focus on her problems. She realizes more of her own problems and her problems in the M. She said sorry that she should have stayed in C five months ago and did things different. She said she still wanted a D, but its going to be put off getting filed until January due to taxes.
I said now we can work on our friendship more, of course her version and mine are different. She did say it may be possible to get back together once she got through some things. She still wanted to set up a separate e-mail account to see some of the articles I had been reading and newsletters I get. Even the ones on M and R. She wants to read some of the self-help books I have. She said thank you very much for understanding everything. Then she had to leave to go to Topeka to get her check and pick up some things. I told her I would stay and watch D11 after school until she got back.
As far as OM, they have been friends for a long time. She is not willing to give up the friendship right now. I don't have any leverage at the moment to do it so I have to get around it. He has not called the house much lately in the last week. Scumbag.
When she got home D11 and I were out back playing horseshoes. W did come back to watch and ask some questions about it. After we were done we talked a little about nothing important and left for training.
I did talk some with my MIL when I went down to see my niece. MIL had told W to stay out of a R right now and start to fix some of her issues. She also said she prayed every night we would get back together. MIL was going to try and get the W to the doctors to check her hormones. Apparently early menopause is common in her family. MIL said W was really pissed that OM came to SD17's birthday party drinking. W's dad is a recovered alcoholic and BIL is trying to recover. That and a couple other things that he has done. MIL also said W was mad one day and convinced I was seeing someone else. MIL told her, so you are. MIL is the type of person that will tell you her opinion and does not care if you want to hear it or not.
Whether we are going to stay together or not is not my focus right now. I will be fine either way. I just want to try and encourage her to read the right things and go to IC to fix her own problems.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
