You'll be ok, well all be ok. The road to okville just really sucks.
Sorry to hear about the events. I guess we are the ones that can understand how we take so much crap yet still care so much. I doubt if any of my friends treated me this way that they would still remain my friend. Yet we take this crap from our wives and we still want them around.
The consequences of her actions will weigh on her because its all piled on now.
As for the "I don't want to hurt you" comment", what did they think would happen? I heard it too. They are so wrapped up in their own selfish worlds and lives that they never consider the consequences of their actions on their spouses, children, or families. It all ticks me off.