I think, in general if we think the WAS is more guilty than us, we feel OK about telling the kids what's going on.
In my situation I'm 100% comfortable telling the kids my side of the story with all my foibles. Of course, you can imagine, I think my wife's are much worse/more damaging. ;-)
Do you feel that your actions can stand in ther light of day?
I think you either tell them the WHOLE truth, including your crap, or you give them the "I'm OK, you OK, we're all OK, but Mommy and Daddy can't live together anymore and it's no one's fault" speech.
The temptation is to demonize your wife. If you do, be prepared to demonize yourself, too. It's only fair. And I don't think it's all that terrible lay it all out. Maybe the kids need to, at least, hear one parent ADMIT their fault in the situation.
If you are the one filing, I'm assuming you have suffient grounds.
