No matter what your intent is you need to consider, at least during DBing, what your H's perception of the question / comment / action is.
What do you believe HIS perception of going to the movie will be if he knew the content? That is the question you need to ask yourself moving forward. The other thing is, I will bet if he says no, you are not planning to go. Don't do this!!!! If you want to see the movie, GO! With or without him. Your decision should not hinge on him attending. This is a good way of doing things for you, GAL and not for him.
Work on getting Sandy to the emotionaly healthy, confident, happy, entertaining place he fell in love with years ago. The only difference is now you have all those years of wisdom and experience to draw on!
