Getting my house in order

[faithisbelieving]

frank...you're on your way. Reconnecting with family, I've found, is a sure sign of healing. In retrospect, I allowed my W to alienate me from them. But..it's beyond that. It shows that you are examining and reconnecting with YOU.

I'll again repeat what you have said to me over and over: "I think you're doin' allright".

As for the pix, the DB crap about keepin' them up on the wall..is great initially. Not now...especially after they've chosen to destroy that safe haven of marriage. I think all the advice you've gotten here is great: offer the girls to pick the ones they like and offer to either hang them on their walls or reframe them to stand on a desktop. Those you don't want, I'd offer to your W: "XXX...I'm changing and rehangin' some photos here in the house....I'll leave some in a box for you to look thru and you can decide if you want any of them."

Re: KerryK's comments.....I'm like him frank. This morning, I went to services with STBXW and kids...FOR THE KID'S. My W looked hot.
Me: XXX...you look beautiful today.
W: Thank you.

She'll be her cold/angry self as usual. I still prefer to stay to the high road..sorta like KerryK. I'd rather stay out of anger when possible...and still be a man to stay with my changes. I look now...observe....(remember that book stuff on how they do all that clothing and makeup stuff for us?). It's good practice for ME. I tell her...for me...not for DB'ing...even if she would arrest me at the first chance she'd get.

And..finally..hijacking..to theoden. I ask my kids how much do they think I love them. They hold their hands out as wide as they can and say "beyond the stars and moon." Well...I loved your last post, and, I respect you in similar fashion. If I get that job in Manhattan...you're on. If I don't, we'll grab a beer when the dust settles.

FIB