Since we've been married ( 8 years ) He pretty much has been away for all of it. We've had stints in between where he works here, but not many. As I think I mentioned somewhere, I've come to be use to it, and rely on it so I haven't had to deal with the SSM as much. It was easier to deal with this way, cause he's omly home 8 days at a time. SO, when hes gone, there's nothing to be upset about. ( Out of site, out of mind )
The reason it's 20 months now, is because he has taken a new job. This job is 20 months long, and we don't know what will come after that, but did talk about him working here at home after. The " plan " of sorts is to get enough money to be able to work here on his own. That scares the hell out of me for sure, because we will HAVE TO FACE this if he is ever to be here full time. There is NO WAY, I can deal with this full time, I know that now. When he was transitioning from the old job to this one, there was an opening here at home, and he almost took it. I was panicked. I thought, uh oh.......... There's no way I can live with him full time if this is our marriage. THen it didn't happen anyway. So.......... Oops
We have gone on vacations. We went to Jamaica just the 2 of us for a week 2 years ago. ( NO SEX ) Then this past year we took the kids to Mexico and we had different rooms. I shared with my daughter, and he shared with my son. We told ourselves it was because we didn't want them alone in a room, but really, I think it was so he didn't have to worry about me asking for sex. BOTH trips were great, and were thinking of another next Christmas.
Surprising him, Ive done that. Gone for a weekend. he travels all over so at times he was only a 5 hour drive away. Wed all go, and visit. Always nice, always loved it. Right now hes a plane ride away, and I work so it would be hard. He also prefers to come home, and I get that.
In reality, the " marriage " part is great about 98% of the time. We get along, but were roomies, not husband and wife. So to speak that is. Hes touchy feely, and he hugs, kisses. Just doesnt want it to go farther then that.
As for what I do one weekends, well. Not a lot. lol Kid stuff mainly. Drive them to work, get them from work. Go to their soccer games and practices. Lonely more then anything really. Now that the kids are older, I'm often alone now.
