He texted me at 6pm saying ..thank you for the lunch..it hit the spot! All i replied was ..your welcome.
I was very proud of myself for not initiating anything..and I responded simply because I dont want him to play the ignore game if I do need to send him a text message... just being polite.
So.. at least I know he had to be thinking of me 2x...once while eating his lunch..and once when he decided to say thank you... to me thats a positive....
Hoping to have another decent day...... one day at a time.
great job san! ok so lets do the same thing today, only better! we all have little setbacks, or sometimes bigger ones but theres always another day to start from scratch. I am very proud of you!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
we all have little setbacks, or sometimes bigger ones but theres always another day to start from scratch. I am very proud of you!!
Yep, we say that a lot around here, there's always a new day, it's true and a good thing. If you have a rough day, the next day is usually a much better one! Congrats on doing a great job! Karen
Hubby just called to talk to D10 before school. She was still brushing her teeth, so we ended up talking about 10 minutes... the stock market, oil prices etc.
He always acts totally upbeat like nothing is going on..totally kills me.
I did ask him what his plans were if he was going to comtinue to give me money to pay the bills. He said..you have all our money..( he has direct deposit and uses his debit card for expenses.)
I said well..I didnt know if you were going to stop your direct deposit. He said ..No
He talked to D10 then I said ..hey tell Daddy I have another question.
When he gets back on with me ..I said..Do you have any desire to see the movie with me on Sat after soccer?
What movie?
Fireproof...
Hmm..whats that about?
I think I sent you a text on it..can you watch movie trailers at work?
He says.. Ill look into it and get back to you.
I didnt have the courage to tell him it was a cristian based fix your marriage movie...lol
So... Im sure its a no..but at least he will see what it is about and have to think about things.
Until watching the movie is his idea or at the very minimum he displays he is in the right mind set, it's applying pressure.
Steve
Need to clarify - There is a positive here that he didn't say "no". The specific movie you suggest has every possibility to be pressure to reconcile in his mind.
San, i went out on the ledge, and asked H to go. altho, you and I are in diff sitches right now, but I did it. that was a 180 for me. he did the we'll see thing. then he did suprise me and say lets go. mind you, I MADE SURE he knew what the movie was about first. then reminded him before we bought tickets, I didnt need him thinking I was pressuring him, (i didnt know at that time where he was himself, that came yesterday, and not by him) H and I both shed tears during the movie. I do think it helped US, but I did it at a time, where we NEEDED to see it, you might want to wait just a bit longer, but I believe you will know when the exact time is right!! great big proud hugs for you!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
No matter what your intent is you need to consider, at least during DBing, what your H's perception of the question / comment / action is.
What do you believe HIS perception of going to the movie will be if he knew the content? That is the question you need to ask yourself moving forward. The other thing is, I will bet if he says no, you are not planning to go. Don't do this!!!! If you want to see the movie, GO! With or without him. Your decision should not hinge on him attending. This is a good way of doing things for you, GAL and not for him.
Work on getting Sandy to the emotionaly healthy, confident, happy, entertaining place he fell in love with years ago. The only difference is now you have all those years of wisdom and experience to draw on!
Congrats on doing a great job!