This is my first post on this forum. I realize your story about the Oriole didn't impact your wife as anticipated...but over time she may come to a different outlook on it.
I wanted to thank you for sharing it with us though, as you did touch my heart. I feel like that baby bird too, and that's what I believed I had to do...fly away or die (on the inside). I still don't know if I won't one day. But I think that perhaps my H did finally start to hear my cries as well.
He has infuriated me several times by saying I can't make it in the cruel world out there...but you gave me a slightly different perspective today on what he could have meant.
Some insight from me...my H has made some changes as well. It does cause mistrust...and terror, frankly. Terror that if I believe it, it will be a hundred times worse for me when it goes back to how it was. I realize this requires a major amount of patience from you. But a few weeks of change compared to years of what caused her pain isn't enough for her to accept so readily, IMHO.
Maybe she doesn't doubt your sincerity, even, just your ability to really maintain the changes. Now that you "get it" I'm sure you are ready to just get to it and make everything great for her...but it will take a lot of time. And from some of your other posts, it seems clear that she has a lot of other issues hurting her right now.
But again, thank you. You've added another drop into my mostly empty bucket of trust. I'm beginning, I suppose, to believe that my H might truly be sincere, or at least entertain the idea that he might have better intentions than I give him credit for. Maybe...
