Dialoguing is discipline. Some people, like my husband, don't like discipline and they try to get away with not doing it. I had to insist with my husband that we do it not less than 3 times a week. It was just like trying to get my son to do homework. But if you do it the benefits are visible. I could feel it right away. The air cleared and we were more relaxed together. If we didn't do it, the tension built. We didn't do it forever. We continued to do it for about a month after the end of the Post sessions. And we now do it on occasion when either of us feels a problem surfacing. The questions in the book are good. Until you use up most of those questions, it is worth doing.
I have found that couples that did not reconcile after Retro all gave up the dialoguing pretty quickly. A tool is no good if you don't use it.
