Hi Upside! How nice to see you here on the piecing forum!
I think it's a wise thing to start thinking about what you're expecting things to be like when you move back in together.
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About the only things I can come up with is that he respects my feelings, makes an effort to spend time with me several times a week and he helps contribute to household expenses and chores. I would also like him to drink less and control his spending but I am afraid that he will no longer think I am "getting it".
I think you need to be a little more specific. What will he do to show you that he's respecting your feelings? What will you consider "spending time together"? Is sitting on opposite sides of the room watching tv together spending time together? I don't think so, but maybe you or your h do. Should you set up a weekly/monthly date night? How much will he contribute toward expenses and chores? Should you set up a budget and a chore list?
How about issues with respect to your kids? Do they have expectations of how things will be if h moves back in?
I think you have a great counselor. I wish I would have gone through this kind of analysis before my h moved in. It is so easy to fall back into old habits and routines.
