There is no more moving forward with her. As sad as it is her problems are greater then anything that I can do. I am not sure she will still seek the help she needs, I do hope so. Emotionally it rips my heart out, rationally I have to move on. It is an obstacle that is to high to climb at the moment.
I'm sorry if I was rough on you yesterday. Just that if your W wants to work on the R, even if it takes a year or 2, should be something to consider I would think. But if she won't give up the OM and try counseling or anything that shows you she wants to work on the R, then I can see how you feel that way. I also think you might want to follow the DB 48-hour rule to consider what you want to do and make sure it's not just being upset or whatever that is leading your decision-making. Karen
Karen