Ava,

No, you are not to blame for his drinking. You already know this.

I'm afraid you're husband is floundering very badly at the moment and is looking for someone to blame.

I could go on, but you already know my views about the man needing to own and take responsibility for his own life.

Stop blaming yourself.

S&A


"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.

Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.