First of all - how are you? I think you said you were having a rough time at home - I hope you're working through it. I for one think you're posts massively jazz up the board. I have just been majorly busy both at work and at home the last week or two, and just haven't had much time to post. Lets us know how things are going.
Secondly, you asked this:
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...why are men so avoidant to having actual direct conversations in a case like this? (I know "why", but I am just asking to try to get you to think). I mean, she is likely full on prepared to tell you exactly why...as most women are usually holding back words at all times that they'd like to tell you....so why not just ask her?
You've made this point in previous posts. I think the majority of men are happy to talk about sex (possibly not other things). That doesn't in and of itself lead to intimacy or a better sex life. But it definitely helps.
I'm not sure however - generalisation alert! - that the same holds true for women. I think a lot of women - particularly LD women (not that I'm a fan of the label) - do not want to discuss sex very often or indeed at all. In fact my own experience is not simply that women can be reluctant to talk about sex, but that it can decrease desire.
Another poster Stigmata said on a different thread:
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No she won't discuss sex. Of course not. Too icky for the F. They would rather be lead by a strong male who takes control without verbiage. One who is confident and thinks he is a good catch for her.
Don't you know all human communication is 93% body language and tone and 7% spoken word?
So my question: Is too much "sex talk" a bad thing? Can it actually quell or kill off desire, particularly in women? And is that because its too painful, requires too much analysis and honesty? Does it depend on whether talk about sex was frowned on in childhood etc?
Maybe reply on your own thread DQ - I don't one to hijack this one!
S&A
"A man can be destroyed but not defeated" - from The Old Man and the Sea, by Ernest Hemingway.
Which I take to mean that every man has within him a spirit of relentlessness and optimism. Its already there; he just has to cultivate it.
